Wow! Interesting mom there.
First of all, i understand the feeling. I've been there. My mom and i never used to get along either. At times i would think she just understand anything about me and never took me serious. Its sad that thats the case with ur mom. She needs to acknowledge that u're maturing and there will be topics she will need to talk with u about. And ur 21 yr old sister isnt doing a smart thing by making fun of it. I think parents, need to spend more time with their children, especially daughters. Talking to ur dad about it will totally be awkward, thats clearly understood. Stuff like that sum teenage gurls would never discuss with dads, its mostly moms.
My advice is, if there is sumone else in ur family-- an adult female i.e. like a relative or family friend that u confide in or trust, sumone thats close to u, maybe u can discuss these things with that person. And maybe u and this adult can sit with ur mom and discuss these things that are obvious
concerns to u. They need to take time out and be serious and stop making fun of everything. Maturity happens for everyone, its that process of growing from one stage to another. ';Girl talk'; was bound to come up, and ur mom needs to deal it as it comes.
Things will change with ur mom-- it will take time-- lots of it but it will. U jus need to let ur mom know that her responses to ur concerns arent helping and making fun of it isnt changing anything either. And ur sister needs to get real, she was once at ur stage, she should've atleast talk to u about it if ur mom didnt rather than make fun of it. Ur mom ought to know that she had to talk to u about these things and if the topics are raised now then she needs to deal with them.My mother and I do not get along... how do I talk to her about ';girl stuff';?
wow thats sad that your mother isnt there for her daughter when you need her most. if you dont feel comfortable talking aboout that stuff with her its ok. talk to a female adult you trust and are close too
That is a tough situation you are describing, I am sorry that you have to feel this way. It's too bad you don't have more time with your mom, you need each other so much right now!
I think you should really try to talk to your mom seriously and tell her how you are feeling... and that you need to talk confidentially. If she is not able to do that and to keep your private things to herself, then you should try to find someone you do trust and can confide in. I highly recommend a close friend/ neighbor or school counselor / nurse to talk to about things. You will feel more confident about things and hopefully you can talk to your mom as soon as possible! She really needs you and if she doesn't realize it now, she will later on!
ok if this makes you feel uncomfortable then you don't have to do it but i have my advice column that i answer peoples questions and give them adivce. I answer all kinds of questions EXCEPT how a baby is made. lol (i'm sure you would understand why) but if you would like to email the yahoo account i would be happy to answer questions. collinsjessie189, the swirly ';a'; and then yahoo.com. i would have just typed out the full thing but the website wont let me.
hope to hear from you
Why not talk to your big sister about it? If you have a grandma or some aunts they can also help you.
Oh, you sound like one lonely, hurting little girl! I pray that you soon will have a really nice adult lady come into your life to be that nurturing adult that you need. But perhaps there is someone that you are overlooking-even perhaps your mother. Really, I believe that all mothers want to be ';good mothers';. Those fears that your mom and your older sisters will ridicule you could be unrealistic. They may feel honored, even if they don't know how to express it, to have you come to them for important ';girl talks';.
Even if you risk asking for help and guidance and your fears come true, that discomfort won't last forever. You will have acted responsibly by asking for your real needs. Then you will be able to casually add your personal needs to the shopping list in the future. This event of womanhood will become less embarrassing to you as time goes by. Continue to do your part to communicate with your family the best that you can. That practice will help you to communicate with the many difficult people that you will meet as the years go by. Stay alert for women that come into your life that are stable, honest and emotionally healthy for role models. Take opportunities to talk with them, and learn from them. God bless you.
Oh honey i feel sorry for you because your mother isint there for you when you were growing up what i would do is to stand it front of her and her boyfriend and say
mom you are never there for me, why did you have me if you knew you wouldnt look after me i am a normal 13 yr old and i need help to (then run away to ur room and slam the door)
She will be emmbarassed and come to u by her self and ask you whats wrong, then you tell her.
Hope this helps!
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