How to read this girl.?

Okay, i'm a freshmen at Michigan State University. There's this girl that goes to University of Washington in St. louis. I went to the same middle school and high school as her. We didn't really know each other very well in middle school, but at the end of eighth grade i think we started talking and then i didn't see her all summer cause i was i pansy. And all summer long i couldn't get her out of my mind. then we started marching band and i got up some courage and went over to se if she even remembered me. She did. For about 5 months I had a crush on her and i got to know her pretty well. I Made no move. ( she has since told me that in that period of time, if i had made a move, ';On some days i would have been okay with it.';)


We Kind of lost touch in sophomore and even maybe a bit of junior year, but during that entire time i always still had kind of a lingering crush that i have carried for four years. I decided that i needed to pluck up ad talk to people more, so i started talking to more people, and she was one of them. We got coffee alot for most of junior and senior year. But never really anything except coffee and talking. she had several boyfriends during that time. And i had a girlfriend for most of senior year and almost all of freshman year. All of those relationships were pretty serious relationships.


The summer before freshman year of college, i was still with my now-ex girlfriend, but i was still good friends with and we were getting coffee. She started talking about her recent break up and really confided in me. I did my best to help her through it we talked on the phone alot. When we both shipped off to college, we skyped on the first day. and we kept in good contact all year. With a month left in school, my relationship with the previously-mentioned ex was about as unhealthy and sad as i could bring myself to bare.


She comforted me some and we continued to talk on skype video chat every once in a while. I grieved for a while, but it was i knew it was the right thing for both of us. Over the next three weeks we started skyping more. 3-4 times a week. We made plans to hang out when we both got back, but out of the blue she bailed because her family flew to india. They really did, i skyped her while she was there several times. She told me she was going to be there for two weeks, but came home as scheduled, 6 days later. She has been talking to me for a couple of weeks now about this guy that goes to the University of Chicago that she knows and is starting to talk with. She would always tell me about how she was talking to him and i'm not sure if she is just trying to make me jealous. Here's why, Tonight we had coffee later in the night, and there were no seats available in the coffee shop, we just walked, and talked. Me, being a guy, said ';i don't know any girls anymore'; and she said ';i'm a girl'; and i responded with, ';yeah but'; and then trailed off.(******* stupid i know) She kind of got mad at me for a second, then she seemed to shake it off and we had a conversation about this other kid from U Chicago. Am i crazy, or is it possible that she is telling me this stuff about this other kid to make me jealous?How to read this girl.?
Girls aren't books.How to read this girl.?
I don't get it.
Sounds like you're already too hung up on her, that'll happen when you let yourself fixate on someone for months, especially without even seeing her and so she's really vivid in your mind right now it's important to have and hold her attention because otherwise all that would have been a waste of time, right? And she's now acccelerated in all her positive attributes because you've subconciously exaggerated them.


She might be bragging, but more likely, you might've talked alot about her even if you didn't see her in all that time, right (if not, well she was still renting free space in your head) and it's natural to talk about something that's on your mind alot. Maybe she's starting to think about this guy alot and that's why she's talking about him.


You can either make a move, NOW, not later and if her response is lukewarm, take it as a stone NO, you're not going to get anywhere if she doesn't think you have self-respect (also, it helps if you really do ;) Whatever you do, don't hang around trying to say what you think she'll like and always make excuses to be nice and be around because even if you have a chance, that'll for sure kill it.


I'd stay away a while and really get her out of my head and then maybe later you'll have a fresh shot because you'll be a new, fresh entity again and familiarity KILLS the initial chemistry thing you'll really need. It also gets the other guy out of the way, if not you can't stop it anyway because it has to run it's course. Don't worry about the little offense in saying what you did about the girl who you don't know heheh. The truth is, you don't really know her. Besides, a little hint that you aren't obsessed with her and hanging on the attention never hurts, it's healthy for her ego and makes her more inclined to want to have your attention, if she is anything at all like me, or any other attractive lady then she really isn't attracted to something falling at her feet in any sense. She has to respect a potential partner as an equal, not an underling. I DO NOT mean to treat her badly or disrespectfully, just don't go overboard, do not treat her on a usual basis as any less than any normal friend but don't try to immediately show any affectionate favortism until you've been given a reason to, and then it should be on the basis of exchange, appropriately, as in I do not mean go to the extreme of lending her your car and then walking in the rain, that sort of thing. Reciprocate.


I really do hope she's trying to find out if your interested by talking about another guy, though. And I also hope that you make a decisive initiative action, she must know and she'll only stay interested if you take the opportunity to assert yourself as the self-respecting and deserving man you are.


Good luck!